Decide that drugs and alcohol aren’t for you — and stick to your decision.
Think about ways to turn down drugs and alcohol before you are faced with the choice. Role-play how you might respond to peers if they ask you about your choice or offer you drugs.
Ask for their help staying substance-free. Tell them what you need, this could include creating a pre-set word that let them know you need help in an uncomfortable situation, and the expected response from them in that situation (a phone call, a ride home, or something else that you agree to prior)
An example may look like a text conversation that looks like:
Youth- "Mom, how is Grandma today" (translation- I need help)
Mom- "She was asking about you today, wondering how you are, and if you can come see her soon." (Ok, are you safe, or is this a crisis level call for help)
Youth- "the sooner the better" (I need help now!) or "that would be great, I miss her too" (I am safe, but need help soon)
Mom- "Now will work, I will be there in 15 minutes to go see her" (I am on my way, we will figure this out together)
Positive peer pressure, from friends who are making healthy choices, can encourage you to remain strong with your choice to be substance-free.
Be clear with any friends that are making a different choice that they will not sway your decision. If you feel uncomfortable with the choices your friends are making, take a break from them for a while. You can always go back if you feel more comfortable later.